The holidays can be very stressful as an adult. I miss the days when I was a child who saw the magic behind these times. Now I am the creator of the magic and it’s tough. Trying to live up to the standards set by media and my parents is hard. Finances, mental/physical health, and various family issues tend to arise this time of year. I want to encourage you by giving you my tips on how to take care of yourself during the holidays.
Make a Plan
As the queen of to-do lists, I acknowledge that I can be very scatterbrained during the holidays. with so many plans and ideas, I have to write them out but I also have trouble containing my impulsiveness. If it were up to me I would love to give something to everyone I know! I love hosting parties, giving gifts and of course decorating. Yet, I am broke and until I come into millions of dollars I am unable to do everything I want. Making a to-do list, and a budget will keep you from regretting the bills that have mounted over the last year.
Life changes faster than we can blink. An emergency occurs, a job loss or someone gets sick are all examples of this. Nothing is constant except that things cost money. Allow yourself some flexibility in your plans. By not overexerting yourself you will find this season to be more enjoyable. Allow yourself and your family to relax during the holidays. I believe the holiday season is to make memories with your family. Perfection is not necessary to have a happy holiday season.
Do things for yourself
I love a good DIY project but I mean self-care. Allow yourself to unwind during this emotionally and financially draining time of year. My biggest stressor currently is my finances and it gives me anxiety. Learn to accept what you CAN do. Focus on the items that are necessary to accomplish and stick to the budget! My budget keeps me grounded and working hard towards my goals. Overall, changing your mindset and keeping a routine helps reduce stress. You cannot help anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first. I use a diffuser and essential oils to relax. Some people visit a spa, take long baths or get lost in a good book to relax. Taking time for yourself isn’t as selfish as people make it seem.
Enjoy your family and have fun
Movie night on the couch is my favorite way to spend time with my immediate family. The holidays are a time to see our more extended family members. Love, laughs and sharing are my favorite portions of the holiday season. Take the time to enjoy your family. Avoid drama and stay out of it. Sometimes saying nothing is the best thing you can do to keep the peace for all parties. Everyone has tough times with their families, but we should appreciate what we have. Many people do not have loved ones to celebrate with. Remember that family is the true spirit of the holidays. Plan activities that everyone may enjoy. Spend that time having fun to increase your spirits/mood.
Shop in advance
The hustle and bustle of the stores during the holidays Is not always enjoyable. People are stressed and tend to take it out on others. I shop online and begin planning what I buying & for who in October. Shopping in advance helps to reduce stress and the chaos of the stores. I bulk shop groceries after Thanksgiving to avoid grocery stores. I save items to my wish lists or carts on my favorite stores in preparation for Cyber Monday Deals. By this time of year I have saved enough to cover what I need to buy and am budgeting respectively. Make a plan and budget to get your holiday shopping done early and quickly. I prefer convenience versus stress.
Ask for help
Seek advice from professional shopping experts or sites to reduce stress. I use Ebates to make money and save money on my purchases. I also follow local couponing sites or Facebook pages to keep an eye out for deals. Yes, making your plan can be time-consuming but I am usually done planning all my holiday needs by November. Everything is then wrapped and hidden weeks before Christmas. Last minute details are always easier when I don’t feel rushed.
Changing your mindset and working with others can also be helpful to ease your stress. The more minds together working towards the same goal is important. Accept help when needed. Seeking help if you get too overwhelmed is also an option. Professional help is always available as a support system.
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary!” ~Mandy Hale
Your own personal care and happiness are important to your well being. If you don’t care for yourself then who will. You can’t help anyone else or fulfill your purpose if you aren’t here. Our mental and physical health is key to survival and success. The APA states that over 61% of people have some stress during the Holiday season. Let’s change that! Focus on the joyful feelings of the spirit. Focus on making the best of your situation. The holiday’s main focus is to celebrate time with family and appreciate what we do have.
Everyone must learn how to take care of yourself during the holidays. Self-care is essential to having enjoyment and happiness. Every day we should take time for ourselves to create a positive atmosphere. I believe in resting and meditating on your needs and desires. No one knows you better than yourself and you are the best person to care for you. This holiday the best gift you can give anyone is yourself. Your health and happiness will rub off. Set the example and lead others to find peace this holiday season.
Until Next Time!